SULTAN KUDARAT - Fifteen years ago, Josie Concepcion was walking with her son near a market in Sultan Kudarat province in southern Philippines when she heard a sudden, massive explosion.
Chaos and
confusion ensued. In a few minutes, she heard sirens blaring and people
screaming for help. Shaken, Josie checked on her son, who was unscathed from
the blast, but she was not as fortunate: doctors later said the explosion left
extensive trauma on her left leg. It was badly fractured.
The 40-year-old laundrywoman went through a series of surgeries to restore the full use of her left leg. Despite the treatment, her leg was still badly fractured, and couldn't heal properly. She walked with a limp. It was in the hospital that she met a volunteer of the Philippine Red Cross who gave her crutches. She will have to use them, she was told.
“I cried and
screamed in fury. I felt rage; I threw them away. I refused to accept that I
will have to rely on them to be able to walk. I asked myself endlessly why it
had to happen to me,” Josie says.
Her
struggle
Life stopped for
Josie. She had to endure negative emotions daily –denial, anger, and
depression. As the years passed, the changes in her life became unbearable. She
felt powerless, as if she were a useless mother and a burden to her family.
Her emotional
struggle was exacerbated by the ridicule she received from acquaintances and
strangers whenever she leaves her home. “When I walk outside or attend Mass,
everyone would look at me. People would say, 'Here comes the cripple.' It was
painful,” she says. “I wanted to escape. I wanted to end my suffering. But in a
fleeting moment, I thought of my family. What will happen to my children? My
husband?”
Josie's husband
was her rock, her biggest supporter. Never for a moment did Josie feel that her
husband's affection for her diminish. She never feared that he would abandon
her. “My husband comforted me. He gave me strength. He encouraged me. He said I
was not alone. I should be grateful that I am still alive. I can do it. He
assured me that he would not leave me because of my disability,” she says.
Thanks to her
husband, Josie became steadfast in her faith. She soldiered on despite the
struggles. She kept going to church despite the gossip mongers. She prayed for
a happy, productive life.
Renewed
hope
In 2018, her
prayers were answered. Josie accompanied her husband during a visit to a doctor
when a provincial social worker approached her and asked: “Do you want to walk
without crutches?” The social worker mentioned that there is a program at Davao
Jubilee Foundation (DJF) which helps people who were victims of armed conflict.
The DJF program,
sponsored by the International Committee of the Red Cross (ICRC), provides
custom-fabricated mobility devices to people who have been affected by armed
conflicts. The ICRC provides partial funding for DJF's physical rehabilitation
services as well as in-kind donations such as food and transportation for
beneficiaries.
Josie was told
that if she were to use an orthoprosthesis she would no longer have to use
crutches. At first, she was sceptical but she kept thinking about DJF and the
social worker. “I was tired of using crutches. I decided I should try. I called
her, she asked me to visit her office, then we visited DJF's office afterward,”
she says.
Healthcare
professionals at DJF noticed that her legs were not of the same length, which
explained why she had a hard time walking. When Josie was fitted with the
orthoprosthesis, she sobbed uncontrollably. This was her chance to live a
better life.
After learning how
to walk with her mobility device, Josie's life vastly improved. “It seemed my
life was extended. I didn't think that I could still walk again as I used to,”
she says.
With the
orthoprosthesis, Josie can walk more freely, move comfortably, and do household
chores independently. She became more confident. Her better mobility encouraged
her to open a small corner convenience store, a business that she started
through the ICRC's Micro Economic Initiatives' project.
The program helps
conflict-affected residents of Mindanao start or revive their own businesses by
providing productive grants. “With the sari-sari store, I am occupied. I can
help my family. We even used the income from the store for the baptism of my
youngest child and grandchild in February. We couldn't have done it with just
my husband's salary,” Josie says.
There was no
competition when she first opened her store. But after four months, three of
her neighbors opened their own stores. She had to step up. “My strategy now is
to encourage my customers to stay for small talk in my store. The longer they
stay, the more food they buy and eat. It is good to catch up with them while
they have a snack. And I earn more,” Josie says.
And Josie is not
running out of ideas. Far from it. Her store is now offering WiFi service to
customers for a fee. She is also planning to sell gasoline to neighbors. Josie
is relentless because it's her family that keeps her going. “I used to think I
was useless, hopeless. I didn't know what to do. Then I realized, that should
not be that way. I should strive hard for my children. There are people who
love me unconditionally,” she says.
She is grateful
for the help that she received from DJF and ICRC. And now, she is ready to pay
it forward—she has introduced two people to DJF, where they received
much-needed physical rehabilitation. “I saw them using crutches and I know how
hard it was. I even went with one of them to DJF. I realized it is not enough
that I am now able to walk. I should also do something to help others,” she
adds.
No longer
ashamed
Her life has
become better, but Josie has one dream left: to see her children graduate from
school. “I have nothing to leave to them but their education. I encouraged my
son, who is a consistent honor student, to keep up his good work. It is my
dream to go up on stage for his graduation. Before, every time he received an award,
I refused to go on stage because of my crutches. Now, I want to go on stage
without it. I have found my confidence. I am no longer ashamed,” says Josie.
(ICRC, Mindanao Examiner)
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